Monday, November 20, 2017

What Do YOU Think?

I've noticed a theme lately with quite a few of my clients and I figured if it has come up for so many of them, maybe there are others out there who are struggling with the same thing.  It is the issue of listening to other people's thoughts and opinions to the point where we can no longer hear ourselves and our own inner voice.

You know the old saying "Too many cooks spoil the stew?" Well along those lines "Too many opinions muddy our inner voice/intuition."

I don't believe most people intentionally put more weight on other people's opinions than their own, it's just that other people's opinions can make us second guess our own knowing and cloud what is true for ourselves.

I have one client who really disliked her job and knew it was not a fit for her. She was starting to play with alternative means of income, tapping into what would truly make her happy but the more she spoke about it with friends and family, the more resigned she felt to stay in the job she was so unhappy in.  When we began to unravel what had moved her from "ready to leave" to "resigned to stay" she realized that each person's opinion further dampened her own inner voice.  When I pointed out that people speak from their own fears/concerns/history, she could see why so many people had told her a steady income was more important than how much she enjoyed what she did for a living.

Another person had experienced a physical assault and was ready to press charges but a few days later had decided against it.  When I asked her to help me understand what had changed, it was clear it was the opinions of others that had made her feel less clear about she wanted to do, even to the point of invalidating the severity of what she had experienced.

Since people come from their own fears/concerns/history when they dispense advice, what they are saying may be true for them but it is likely not going to be true for someone else.

The key to tapping into our inner guidance/intuition comes from learning to truly listening to ourselves.  Asking ourselves questions such as "What do I need?" and "How would that make me feel?" can help us connect to ourselves. The more we listen to ourselves, the easier it is to keep other people's opinions from drowning out our own knowing.

I'm not saying that we should not talk to friends and family about decisions we are trying to make.  I am merely suggesting that we don't take other people's opinions on as if they are "truth" - we don't have to embody every opinion that we hear.  If we can remain objective when we listen to people and leave their opinions "on the table" rather than putting their opinions in our pocket, so to speak, we have a greater chance to retaining the clarity of our own inner knowing.

If you are feeling stuck regarding a decision you are trying to make, it might help to stop and consider who all you've been talking to.  Are other people's opinions clouding your ability to hear your own inner voice?  Remember that it's ok to hear what other people have to say as long as you remember that their advice comes from their perspective and the only person who truly knows what is right for you is YOU.

Monday, November 6, 2017

Honoring All Life

Saturday night, we set the clocks back and went to bed.  With that extra hour of sleep, I woke up in the morning feeling good.  The sun was out and it felt like it was going to be a great day.  I made coffee for myself and fed Kino his breakfast.  When I let Kino out to go potty, the peacefulness of the morning disappeared.  He began barking and went tearing over to the side fence.  I saw him slap his paw on something and I heard a squeak.  I thought to myself "none of his squeak toys should be outside" so as I walked over to investigate, I saw him lift his paw up and slap it back down and I heard another squeak. Sprinting the rest of the way, when I got over to him I saw that he had his paw on a rat . . . a very large rat. 

Well, after screaming at Kino to get away and getting him to a different part of the yard to go potty, I got him back in the house. Rushing over to check on the rat, my heart was beating out of my chest. I was surprised to find that the rat was actually quite pretty, if rats can be pretty.  His fur was black and tan - so he kinda looked like a tiny german shepherd.   The rat was still breathing (quite hard) and I wasn't sure how injured he was.  

I sat down and began doing Reiki on him.  He seemed to respond well to it and actually got up and took a few steps. Thinking that maybe he would be ok, I went back in the house for a little while. When I went back to check on the rat, he had moved a couple feet from where he initially was, but he wasn't moving anymore.  His breathing was very labored and I figured Kino probably hurt his lungs when he slapped his big paw on him.  I gave him more Reiki and hoped it might help but after about a half hour, I could tell he wasn't going to make it. Since I wasn't sure how long it would take, I fretted for a while about what to do . . . move him somewhere else to die? or let him be.  If I moved him into the front yard, a neighborhood cat or dog could get to him and I didn't want anything else to happen to him, so I decided to let him be and I promised I would keep Kino away from him.  

When Kino had to go potty, I put a leash on him and brought him to a different part of the yard so he couldn't bother the rat anymore.  Through out the day, I kept checking on the rat.  When that part of the yard got shady and cool, I got a hand towel and wrapped it around him so he wouldn't get cold.  No matter what I tried busying myself with inside the house, I kept finding myself back outside.  I didn't want him to be alone. I wanted him to be at peace, I didn't want him to suffer and the only thing I could think of was to keep doing Reiki on him.  

At one point, I sat with him and told him how sorry I was and the tears started to flow. I asked him to forgive Kino and cried some more.  I promised him I would keep him safe until he passed away and the tears continued.  I couldn't believe how emotional I was feeling about this rat, because I don't particularly like them but he was a living being and I believe all life should be honored.  I knew I needed to treat him with dignity and respect in his final hours.

In the middle of all that, I was fortunate that one of my best friends called and I filled her in on what was happening.  She thought that if the rat was out in the day light and that easy for Kino to "catch," that he must have already been sick. That made me feel a bit better . . . that possibly he was going to die anyway and maybe Kino just sped up the process.  

I remembered that when I was little, we used bury fish/turtles, etc that died in little jewelry boxes and I felt I should do the same when he finally passed, so I started searching for a box that was big enough for him. He was really big - at least 7 inches long (not counting his tail) so I had trouble finding a box to fit him.  I found one box that would fit him perfectly albeit a tight squeeze but it made me sad to think of him being buried in a bare box without some padding, so I kept searching until I found a box that would fit him and also the hand towel I had wrapped around him.  I spent the rest of the afternoon digging a hole.  Where I started to dig the first hole, I came across pipes that wouldn't let me dig deep enough for the box, so I moved to a new area and dug again.  

Each time I checked on him, he was still breathing.  I was surprised it was taking him so long to pass but he seemed so peaceful, I decided I should just hold the space for him until he was ready to go.  Around 4:30pm, I moved him into the shed, so that I could let Kino out in the yard and also make sure he stayed safe.  Wrapped up in the little blue towel, he looked so sweet it melted my heart. I told him I hoped he felt safe and loved in his final hours.  And then I cried some more.  

He finally passed around 5:30 but by then it was getting too dark to give him a proper burial so I put he and the blue towel in the box and left him in the shed.  I hoped that his family and friends would be able to pay their respects to him if I left him there over night.  (And given the amount of rat poop in the shed, I am pretty sure it's a regular hang out for all of them).

When I got into bed that night, I decided that if I was going to give him a respectful burial, he should have a name.  I laid there for the longest time trying to pick the right name for him.  I finally settled on Noah.  That seemed to fit him.  So today, I wrote a little note address to Noah and put it in the box with him, I cut a few flowers from the yard and put them in the box as well and then I buried it.  

I believe that everything happens for a reason so I trust that there was a reason he ended up in my yard.  Whether it was so Kino could help him transition more quickly or so he could be treated lovingly on his last day or both or maybe something else entirely. I do trust that it happened for a reason.  

Thursday, October 12, 2017

Food Allergies/Intolerances

This year, I haven't written as often as I used to in large part because I have been distracted with Kino's health issues.  It all started in the middle of March when Kino started throwing up every day.  He would wake me up before the sun even came up, wanting to go outside to eat grass . . . sometimes the barfing happened right away but other times he waited until we got back into bed and I fell back asleep before he needed to go outside again.

This went on for weeks and weeks . . .  I couldn't figure out what was going on.  Then he began having bloody diarrhea every few days.  I tried every kind of holistic remedy I could find but still he wasn't getting better.  I switched him to boiled chicken and rice but he still didn't get better. In many ways, he seemed to get worse.

Long story short, I finally discovered that Kino had a bad case of colitis/IBS brought on my food intolerances . . . and a case of giardia on top of that.  I have spend countless hours researching food intolerances and how they are different from food allergies and it turns out Kino has both.

The culprit was my changing his dog food in the middle of March, from a turkey based food to a fish based food.  I had no idea Kino had such a severe intolerance to fish but that lesson kept hitting me over and over again.

When a dog has food issues like Kino, they recommend putting them on a limited ingredient dog food, which I did repeatedly, each time with no improvement in his condition.  I'm embarrassed to admit how long it took me to read the labels more closely and discover that the common ingredient in all these "limited ingredient dog foods" is fish oil.  Clearly my boy cannot handle fish in any form.

I learned a lot about the difference between food allergies and food intolerances - since unfortunately Kino has both.  While the food allergy reaction is less dramatic (thick, white gluey/foamy saliva, chapped lips, itchy skin as opposed to vomiting), it was getting nearly impossible to avoid all the things he was allergic to (i.e. rice, potatoes, chicken, turkey, duck, pork, etc).

After much resistance on my part, I finally broke down and started making his food myself.  It was something I absolutely did not want to do but there wasn't a single food on the market that didn't have some ingredient he had a reaction to.

The process has come with a lot of trial and error.  When he started to lose weight no matter how big the portions, I learned that while WE tend to eat meat that is lower in fat, dogs actually need all that fat.  When he still wasn't putting on weight, even with the high fat meat, I learned that my lack of math skills continues to haunt me. After a little tutoring session with my father, I learned how to translate pounds into cups to make sure I had the right ratio of protein in his food.  Kino finally stopped losing weight.

It has also been challenging to clear up his colitis.  Even with the elimination of major food triggers, we seemed to be stuck in a 3 day cycle of tummy trouble.  Every three days, he would wake me up before the sun came up to go outside, eat grass and throw up.  I never did figure out why it occurred every 3 days but that was the cycle we were stuck in  (and anyone who knows me knows that getting up before the sun is the LAST thing I want to do) but we soldiered on, month after month.

Finally at the end of August, through some wonderful divinely orchestrated guidance, I connected with an old friend who sells CBD oil.  After learning it can help with gastrointestinal issues, I decided to give it a try.  Much to my delight, we finally broke the 3 day cycle!   In fact, we had gone almost 3 WEEKS and I was hopeful we had finally resolved the colitis . . . and then another morning of barfing.  I suspect that Kino is also allergic to cucumbers because that was the only thing he had eaten that was different. (I had been picking them out of my salads each night and sharing them with him).  So, the trial and error still continues but we're finally getting a handle on it.

It's been a very educational 6 months for us.  I can't say I have loved the experience but I am grateful for what I have learned.  If any of you are struggling with food allergies and/or intolerances with your pets, I'm happy to share information with you so let me know if I can help!

Sunday, August 20, 2017

The Importance of the August 21 Eclipse

This eclipse has the potential to shift things on our planet in a very positive way if we can take a moment to focus on the love and unity we want for our world.  There are many global meditations being organized to harness this energy for good.  I am sharing information from one of the groups here in case any of you are interested in participating.

We will be doing this meditation at the moment of the maximum of the Solar eclipse on Monday, August 21th at 11:11 am PDT in Los Angeles.

This equals 8:11 pm EET in Cairo, 8:11 pm CEST in Paris, 7:11 pm BST in London, 2:11 pm EDT in New York, 1:11 pm CDT in Chicago, 12:11 pm MDT in Denver and 2:11 am CST on Tuesday, August 22nd in Taipei.

Monday August 21 at 18:11 UTC


1  Use your own technique to bring you to a relaxed state of consciousness.

2  State your intent to use this meditation as a tool to speed up the process of bringing harmony and unity for planet Earth and its inhabitants.

3  Visualize a pillar of Light emanating from the Galactic Central Sun, then going through all beings of Light inside our Solar System, through the eclipsed Sun and the Moon and then through your body to the center of the Earth.
Visualize another pillar of Light rising from the center of the Earth, then up through your body and upwards into the sky towards all beings of Light in our Solar System and our galaxy.

You are now sitting in two pillars of Light, the Light flowing both upwards and downwards simultaneously.
Keep these pillars of Light active for a few minutes.

4  Now visualize a soft pink healing divine feminine energy, healing all people of the planet of their past traumas, bringing peace, harmony, understanding, abundance and unity.

Visualize this soft pink light healing the minds and hearts of all people worldwide.

See all Lightworkers, Lightwarriors and Truthers working in unity for the creation of the New Earth.

See the people of Earth celebrating and joyfully participating in the creation of our new reality where everyone can obtain what they need and freely choose to live as they desire.

What if you don't know how to meditate or are not comfortable giving it a try?  Just stopping at the above mentioned time and focusing on love and/or positive intentions can be just as helpful.

Additionally, below is an update written by Emmanuel Dagher outlining what is happening at present and what we can expect, for those of you who are interested in learning a little more about what is happening on an energetic level at this time. 

Energy Update: The Power of the August 21 Total Solar Eclipse
In the next 24 hours, we will experience a total solar eclipse.
Eclipses are some of the most powerful astrological occurrences, because they often usher in major changes.
During an eclipse, humanity is upgraded energetically, so the energies will feel very high as they move through us.
It might be a good idea to write down whatever inspirations, ideas, and insights we receive at this time, so we have them available for easy access later on, to integrate into our lives.
An eclipse is also a great time for healing, because it brings to the surface deeply buried patterns that are no longer aligned with our highest potential.
If you find yourself and others feeling a bit more emotional or sensitive than usual during this time ... be gentle with yourself and them, as this will allow the healing to be a much smoother experience.
As we use this time for healing, it’s also a great opportunity to let go of the illusions of separation, and to remember that we have always been One with all of Life, including each other.
This particular total solar eclipse is asking us to be fully transparent, open, and honest when it comes to how we live our lives.
Anything or anyone operating covertly or without integrity during a time of this total solar eclipse, and for several months afterward, will struggle Big Time.
Keep an eye out for how this shows up, both in our immediate reality and also on the global stage.
One of the greatest ways to work with this solar eclipse is to be clear about what our intentions are, and to be willing to follow through on them when the opportunity to do so presents itself.
During a total solar eclipse, meditating on the Sun energy strengthens our internal Sun (located in the solar plexus/stomach region), which is another way of saying our Divine power.
This helps us to express ourselves and our gifts more openly and freely, without holding back. It also helps us build confidence in ourselves, including our gifts, talents, and overall presence in this world.
This total solar eclipse is going to shake up a lot of things, which will open the door for many new blessings to enter our reality.

Monday, July 10, 2017

My Blue Jay Friends

I have a couple of blue jays that spend an enormous amount of time in my yard.  I enjoy having them around, as they have provided a lot of entertainment for me.  Kino, on the other hand, does not like them sharing our space.  If he sees them in the yard, he barks and chases them away.  He even seems to know when they are out of his view in the front yard because countless times he has barked (his "get away from our house" bark) and I'll look out the kitchen window expecting to see a delivery person approaching the door and all I see are the blue jays on the front lawn.

This spring I planted flower seeds in the yard.  I always enjoy seeing them slowly sprout up and turn into a full grown flower so I plant seeds each year.  Not long after I had planted the seeds, one of the blue jays was in the yard almost every day.  Flying over to a small wooden table a couple feet away from where I was sitting and using his beak, he would repeatedly smack something against the base of the table.  I assumed it was some type of small nut he was wanting to crack open and didn't think much of it as I had seen them do the same thing on the gutter outside my office window. I enjoyed these daily visits in part because I loved how comfortable he seemed to be around me (as long as Kino was inside the house).

Fast forward a couple of months and all the seeds I planted are now fully grown flowers . . . all except one . . . none of the Morning Glory seeds I planted have shown any signs of life.  Those areas of the yard at just plain dirt.  Contemplating what could have gone wrong with my Morning Glory seeds, all of the sudden a bell went off in my head . . . that was what the blue jay was trying to crack open on the base of my wood table every morning.  Those little goof balls managed to dig up every single Morning Glory seed I had planted.

The fun with blue jays doesn't end there.  Just yesterday, I went out into the backyard and one of the blue jays was just sitting there looking at me.  He was only a few feet away from me and didn't move at all as I approached the patio furniture.  He just kept staring at me.  "What's going on?" I said to him, as I sat down in the chair and just then I noticed something out of the corner of my eye.  I looked over and saw that the little solar panel that is attached to one of the strings of outdoor lights was hanging down a couple feet from the gutter, instead of being tucked up in the gutter where it usually is.  Looking at the blue jay, I said "What did you do?" and he looked down at the ground, then looked back up and made eye contact with me.  "You need to be more careful with my lights buddy," I said as I laughed.  He continued to stare at me, so I said, "Don't worry, I'm not mad.  I'll go get the ladder and fix it."  That seemed to make him happy and after another minute or so, he flew away.

After going back in the house, I pulled out my book "Animal Speak" by Ted Andrews to find out what it means when blue jays show up in your life.  Among other things, it said "The blue jay reflects that a time of greater resourcefulness and adaptability is about to unfold.  You are going to have ample opportunities to develop and use your abilities."   I giggled when I read "The blue jay is a reminder to follow through on all things -- to not start something and then leave it dangling."  I saw a picture in my mind of the solar panel dangling down from the gutter and wondered if that was his message to me.  Guess it's time to figure out what I haven't followed through on.  ;-)

Saturday, June 24, 2017

Feel What You Feel. Then Let It Go

I have had several clients express concern lately that they can't stay in the emotion of love.  For as much as they try to feel love toward their co-workers, their fellow commuters, their neighbors, etc. they still have moments where they feel angry or hurt, agitated or taken advantage of.  The truth is there is nothing wrong with feeling those lower vibrating energies so we ought to stop beating ourselves up over having them.

I believe that when something triggers us and we feel angry or hurt, etc. it is not a sign that we are failing - instead it is a sign that the emotion (and the related baggage) is coming up to be released.  If we can allow ourselves to just feel what we feel and then consciously choose to let it go, we can shift ourselves back into love.  Unfortunately, we often remain stuck in the negative emotion that came up, which just prolongs our discomfort.

An example of that is if someone cuts us off in traffic and we have to slam on our brakes to avoid rear-ending them.  We may feel a surge of anger come up.  There is nothing wrong with that.  We may offer some hand gestures and swear for a few minutes.  That's OK too . . . as long as we don't stay in the emotion of anger.  If we continue to be angry, if we choose to tailgate the person the whole rest of the drive, if we post about it on social media after we get home and rant to our spouse about it for hours that evening, if we get to work the next morning and recount the story about the jerk driver to our co-workers . . . well then we are just hurting ourselves.

As an alternative, what if you allowed yourself to feel whatever you felt in that moment . . . maybe it was initially anger but as you sit with the emotion you realize you also felt fear . . . fear for your safety, fear of all the negative ramifications of a car accidents, etc.  As you continue to focus on your feelings, you may identify other ones that come up . . . maybe you feel sadness and grief as you recall a friend who died in a car accident many years ago.

Once you have allowed yourself to recognize what you feel and actually feel what you feel, then you can make the choice to release the emotion.  You can exhale deeply with the intention of letting the emotion go.  You can say "See you later" if you want or "There's some old stuff that's leaving."  You can do it any way you'd like - the key is to be conscious of your choice to release it.

After that, sometimes the higher vibration feelings like love and gratitude will just come back in on their own.  Maybe a while later, you find yourself feeling grateful that it didn't result in an accident and grateful that no one was hurt.  You might even feel compassion for the other driver and hope that whatever had them in such a rush wasn't something awful like a family tragedy.

The important thing is to be mindful about our emotions when they come up.  Rather than judging ourselves as bad for feeling angry, how about it we instead look at it as an opportunity to release something we no longer need.  We can choose how long as stay in the emotion and if we are really being kind to ourselves, we don't allow ourselves to stay in the lower vibrating emotions too long.

Next time you find yourself reacting emotionally, try out the method of really feeling it and then releasing it and see what you notice.  Sometimes we need to get a good nights sleep before things fully shift out so if you don't feel immediately lighter, don't worry about it.  See how you feel in the morning.

The important thing is to remember we have a choice about how long we stay in a negative (low vibrating) emotion and that often times when a negative emotion lingers it is because it is waiting for us to sit with it, fully feel it and consciously release it.

Monday, June 5, 2017

What The World Needs Now . . .

In many ways, we are living in challenging times.  Things happening in our world can make us question humanity, they can make us operate out of fear and they can make us feel powerless.

Yet, I believe we hold the power to make a positive difference in the world with the simple act of kindness.  If we look for opportunities every day to show people a little kindness, I believe that kindness will multiply and multiply.  It doesn't matter if you know the people you are offering kindness to or if they are strangers.  Something as simple as holding the door open for someone, or letting someone into the congested traffic lane you are in can make a big difference in someone's day. It may inspire them to offer a similar kindness to someone else and the ripple effect can take it from there.

There's a song from my childhood that plays in my head all the time . . . even though it was written and performed many years ago, the lyrics couldn't be more poignant today:

What the world needs now is love, sweet love
It's the only thing that there's just too little of
What the world needs now is love, sweet love
No not just for some but for everyone

Even though it may not feel like it, this is our world . . . and even though it may not feel like it, we have the ability to make it a better place to be.

I encourage you to try it out.  Do something kind for someone and see how they react.  Notice how it makes you feel.  Then do it again!  There's no time like the present to offer love and kindness to others.  I can't explain how it will shift things in our world, yet I am equally sure that it will.