Monday, November 14, 2022

Time To Use Our Senses

I suspect I'm not the only one who has had the experience of offering advice to someone and while the words are coming out of your mouth, you realize that it was a message for you as well - that you need to hear that same advice in that moment. This happens to me a lot - whether I am speaking to a client or a friend - I believe these moments of synchronicity are there to assist us if we are paying attention.

A humorous example of this is regarding the nose games my German shepherd Kino and I play almost every day. I cut up treats into tiny pieces (smaller than a kernel of corn) and hide them around the house for him to find. The funny thing is that I can tell when he is using his brain and not his nose because he begins running to "known" locations to search (and usually runs right past the treats that are right near him). When I say, "Kino you've gotta use your nose" I can instantly see the switch in his approach. As soon as he starts sniffing again, he ends up finding them much more quickly.

Quite a few times when I have heard myself say "Kino you've gotta use your nose" I get that little zing of confirmation that the message isn't just for him - it's for me as well!  In those moments, I will stop and ask myself "Where am I using my brain instead of my senses?" I can usually identify pretty quickly where I have slipped into trying to solve something with my linear mind rather than relying on my heart and my intuition. (Funny enough, the approach is often the same . . . when I am in my head, the "search" for answers is usually a little chaotic and unfruitful, as I "run" to known sources of information, frequently missing what is right in front of me)

I'm sharing this now because I am seeing the need for us all to rely much more on our own senses. We are being bombarded with so much information and there is so much disinformation or conflicting information flying around that it is really hard somedays to discern what the truth is or determine what our best next step is. 

My hope is that this post will encourage everyone to take a deep breath and go "inside" to see what your own senses tell you. I am a big fan of the "hand on the heart" method of checking in with myself. After a couple deep breaths, it is far easier to tune into what I know and/or determine if I NEED to know something in that moment. 

Kino says he appreciates the reminder to "use his nose" so he thought we should share this to encourage everyone to tap into their own senses, their own knowing and their own internal guidance. :-)  As the information "out there" seems to get louder and louder, I'm realizing over and over again how much I can tune into myself and rely on my own inner knowledge. I feel so much gratitude for my earth-bound guide, Kino, who continues to keep me on track.




Wednesday, November 2, 2022

Building Trust

 Last month, I shared a post from the incredible folks at the Global Sanctuary for Elephants. The post detailed the sacred journey the elephants were navigating to process their feelings about the departure of one of the elephants at the sanctuary. 

As I mentioned in that post, my respect and appreciation for Scott and Kat who run the sanctuary is beyond words. They understand and respect animals in the same way that I do and I am often moved to tears when I read their updates. They are such an inspiration and not only do they do wonderful work on behalf of the elephants but they also are making incredible strides in educating people about the depth of animals. 

Today was one of those days so I am sharing what they wrote about the process of building trust with the elephants who are in their care.  I hope you enjoy it as much as I did. (and as an added bonus, I'm also including the beautiful picture of Rana) 

We have been interviewing for new caregivers at the sanctuary recently, and one of the candidates asked an interesting question that gave us a chance to reflect. She wanted to know if the elephants here at the sanctuary have a high level of trust toward Scott and Kat because the two traveled to pick them up at their old life, and bring them to Elephant Sanctuary Brazil. 

That’s an interesting theory, but the reality is that it’s more than that. While Kat may have sometimes visited elephants before transport, (with the exception of Ramba) she does not travel with the rescue caravan. Instead, she stays at the sanctuary to oversee care of the elephants already here. Though Scott does travel with the elephants to their new home at the sanctuary, there seems to be a larger element at play. 

For instance, Scott led the team that moved Lady to ESB, but Lady built up a trusting relationship with Kat first. It took longer for Lady to open up with Scott and, for whatever reason, allow herself to be vulnerable. She did not arrive with a loyalty towards him above others; if anything, she insisted he prove himself to a higher degree than anyone else. Trust does not occur with elephants only because of the hours spent with them bringing them to their new home. Part of your purpose is to facilitate a new life for them and to honor all that comes with that new life, outside of your own role. Significant trust is something that takes time, is continuously built on day after day, and can be lost at any moment.

Trust can come from things like a daily routine, or the understanding that care we offer is helping them to feel better, but the bedrock of building relationships with the elephants in our care is hearing what they communicate that they need from us - not who met whom first. Truly, respect comes when you honor the space and the life that belongs to them. It’s not about us and our egos or hangups (although it can be difficult for people to not get lost in how wonderful elephants make you feel when you are around them); it’s about what they need for us to be. Sometimes it’s most important for them to be standing on their own and finding their way in a manner that’s completely separate from their relationships with humans. Our job, as those helping to foster their healing, is to recognize and appreciate the significance of each step in their journey, regardless of what it means for us personally.