This time every year, I feel compelled to write a plea to animal guardians, to consider their animals during the holiday season. This is a crazy time of year, not just for us but for our animals as well. For animals who live in our homes, it can be very confusing. WE know what's going on, but they don't always understand and it can make the holidays even more stressful for them. This is especially true for animals that are new to our home, but it still applies to animals who have been with us a while and have been through a few holidays seasons.
You may experience all sorts of frustrating experiences, such as your dog deciding to "water" the christmas tree, or your cat who removes half the ornaments from the tree while you are away at work. They may unwrap gifts that have been placed under the tree, or chew through a string of lights. This behavior is typically telling you that the holidays are stressful for them too and chances are, they don't understand what all the hoopla is about.
If you think about it from their perspective, this is what they see:
- People coming and going, with no one sticking to the regular schedules and routines
- Packages being brought into the house, that they aren't supposed to get into
- Trees being dragged into the house, that get a lot of our attention, especially during the decorating process
- Lots of food being prepared in the kitchen, that they don't necessarily share get samples of
- People coming over, sometimes spending the night, often displacing them from their usual hang out spots
They often get yelled at or spoken to in a firm voice. We say things like:
- Get out of those packages, those aren't for you
- Get out of the tree, you are going to break the ornaments
- Stop drinking the water from the tree stand - you have a water bowl
- Don't you dare pee on that tree
- Go in the other room, Aunt Gertrude is allergic to dogs/cats
- You can't lay in the kitchen when I am cooking
It's all very confusing to them and they often don't end up enjoying the holiday season very much. I think the holidays could be much more enjoyable for everyone if we just talked to our animals and explained what was going on. If we can manage their expectations, they can be a part of the celebrations, instead of adding another element of stress to it.
Many people talk about how their animals behave strangely during the holidays and most of the time, I believe it is because they don't understand what is going on. Their regular routine is changed up and they often feel ill at ease because of it.
Imagine if your spouse brought home bags of "goodies" but told you that you couldn't touch them. Wouldn't that make you extra curious about what was in those bags? What if a bunch of people showed up and decided to spend the night without telling you ahead of time? Wouldn't that potentially put your nose out of joint? Especially if those people set up camp in your bedroom and you didn't know where you were supposed to sleep?
If you put yourself in your animals shoes for a moment, you can better understand how it feels from their perspective. Here are some tips:
If you are bringing a christmas tree into the house, explain to them that it is for decoration. Let them know you are making sure it has plenty of water so they don't feel the need to water it themselves. :-) Explain to them that the things hanging on the tree are not for them to play with or eat. Then make sure they know where the things are that they CAN play with and eat.
If you are going to have a house full of people, let your animals know. Tell them . . . this many people are coming and this is how long they are staying.
If you want your animal to do anything different, please let them know. If your animal is going to have to sleep somewhere where they aren't used to sleeping, tell them that and explain why. Let them know how long this new arrangement will last.
If your animal is used to having quiet time to rest in the house and you know that isn't going to be easy when you have a house full of people, tell them where they can go to be "alone" if that's what they need. Give them a specific room in the house they can go to if they need to "get away from it all."
Include them in the celebration in whatever way you can. Whether that is feeding them at the same time the rest of you all are sitting down to eat so they feel they are having a special meal too, or giving them something to unwrap when the rest of you are unwrapping your gifts, let them know they are part of what is going on too.
I believe the holidays can be happier for all of us - 2-legged and 4-legged alike, if we can set everyone's expectations for how things are going to be different for a few days or weeks. Your animals will thank you - in their own special way!
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